Posts Tagged ‘valentine’s day’

I thought I would go off on a tangent here (me ? On a tangent? Never would I… There was this time-) in the spirit of Valentine’s Day and discuss something that’s been abrading my psyche for some time.

Love is very much like a car. Let’s look at the automobile. We pump gas into the tank at regular intervals, as do we change the oil. Sometimes things break on it – the air conditioning for example, might go out (and Murphy’s Law dictates this will always happen on the hottest day of summer) or the brakes may not respond as tightly. Occasionally we puncture a tire and have to get it patched, or replace the whole thing when the treads wear thin.

But each time one of these little things happens, we generally do NOT go get a brand new car. More importantly, anyone who didn’t fill their tanks and still expected the car to get them anywhere they needed to go is, to put it quite bluntly, insane.

Now take love, and relationships. Somehow we expect to be able to acquire a significant other and that acquisition is, well, all there is. We don’t have to maintain it, right? We bought the car, it’s ours and should serve us on demand no matter how we drive it.

We need to fill that tank with gas (affection) on a regular basis. We find a broken part and fix it, because ignoring the problem doesn’t make it go away and driving it in that condition may just lead to a fatal accident.

This is just a gross oversimplification, but love and a happy relationship takes a lot of work and a lot of resources and the truth really is that it’s all worth it, especially if you can drive that “car” well into its vintage years.